Taylor Marshall Memorial Benefit
Taylor Marshall of East Providence will be remembered Sunday, Dec. 2, with a benefit to help her parents cope with medical and funeral expenses.
A benefit memorial for Taylor Marshall of East Providence, who died on Nov. 18 in Hasbro Children's Hospital after battling cystic fibrosis for all 18 years of her life, will be held on Sunday, Dec. 2.
“We are holding a memorial benefit to help her parents, Michael and Kelly, with the costs accrued over her last hospital stay, and the funeral costs,” said Mary Nascimento, Taylor’s aunt.
The benefit will be held at the Brightridge Hall (rear) at 59 Brightridge Ave. starting at 2 pm. There will be food, entertainment and raffles.
“Taylor was the light of everyone’s life,” said Nascimento. “Your life was never the same after you met her.”
More than 500 people attended her wake last Friday, Nov. 23, she said. Read her obituary here.
Taylor was born with the degenerative lung disease, Nascimento said. She was on a ventilator and an ECMO machine that worked in place of her lungs and heart at the end due to her diminished lung capacity.
“She is breathing free now,” Nascimento said, as sad as her death is to her family.
Taylor always worried about what would happen to her family when she passed on, said her aunt, even as she battled the disease. So, a benefit fundraiser scheduled for the same date that was to raise money for a possible lung transplant – her only hope of surviving cystic fibrosis – was turned into the memorial benefit.
Here is the eulogy given by Taylor’s brother, Sean, at her funeral on Saturday, Nov. 24:
“Taylor has so much to be proud of and if I’m going to try to start from the beginning then I have to start with two words. Well there more like sounds actually. Gleek Gleek. Taylor was so proud of herself when she was just a toddler for being able to say that. To be honest I don’t know why or what that meant, but she smiled every time she said it. When she smiled it made us all smile no matter what was going on.
I can’t say I remember her first steps, or what her first word was, but I remember that she was the first girl I ever loved not in a weird way or anything. Yes, I love my mom to death, but we are supposed to love our mom. It’s just a connection all children have unless the mother does something so awful that it puts that love to the test, BUT DON’T WORRY MOM, YOU HAVE DONE EVERYTHING RIGHT. IT’S JUST TAKEN YOUR BOYS LONGER TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU AND DAD WERE TRYING TO TEACH US.
I’ve always been kind of a sensitive guy, or my friend Erin would call me “EMO GUY”, but it was Taylor that showed me how it was ok to be gentle in the first 6 to 7 years of her life. It wasn’t my mom who taught me how to be kind and respectful to a lady. It was Tay. The way she would hang on to my every word taught me how to pay attention. The restraint in her early years towards a person or situation she didn’t like taught me how to remain calm and not react right away. Although others will tell you I’ve taken the restraint too far and don’t speak up for myself sometimes, but don’t worry she also taught me how to spit fire in her later years and for anyone who has been on the receiving end of my fire, I’d like to take this time to apologize and say hey it’s not my fault, blame Taylor.
She also taught me that a lady is mysterious and sometimes you have to know when to stop asking questions and just trust that she will come to you if she needs you…….
And then there was the time we went to Disney. I remember the week before the people from Make a Wish came to the house, my brother and I CONSTANTLY told her Disneyland, Mickey Mouse and Minnie. Mom and dad told us to stop, but we didn’t listen cause that’s where we wanted to go. When the time came sure enough Taylor said Mickey Mouse. Thanks for that Tay.
Also I’d like to thank you for the cut and bruise Mikey suffered on his shine when he fell up the stairs when we finally let Mikey play mini-golf at Pirates Cove. It’s a story we will bust Mikey on for years. This just came into my head, but I cant believe Bay vVew let you drive by their school never mind actually walk through the doors an attend class there with that beautiful mouth you have. I know you didn’t have it back then, but its just funny to me that’s all. Moving on now. Taylor loved the Powder-puff girls and in return so did I. There is actually a ridiculous picture of me somewhere making some weird face while holding all her powder-puff girl dolls.
How about Taylor’s laugh? Can you remember what it sounds like? Or the faces she made when she thought something was funny. I honestly can’t describe what it sounded like or what her faces looked like, but all I know is that she showed me how important it was to laugh, no matter how bad or good things were. So, I ask everyone to make me at least one promise, and that’s when you miss Taylor so much that it hurts and brings you to tears, make sure you turn around and think of something that she did that just made you crack up laughing. If I know my sister like I think I do, then I know that every single person that has every talked to Taylor or got to know Taylor defiantly has a moment that can outshine the sadness.
Taylor was always a straightforward girl. She said what was on her mind whether it was good or bad. I remember one time when she was in for a tune-up at Hasbro, a gentle man named Steve came up to visit her. He is a volunteer artist who comes up and draws pictures with the kids and upon Taylor first meeting Steve she looked him dead in the eye and as serious as anything asked him, “ Are you a pedophile?”. Steve, I don’t know if you’re here our not, but Taylor loved you more then you may know. So, on behalf of my family, I want to thank you for all those nights you came up to spend time with Taylor. As crazy as it may seem, it was things like that that made Taylor who she was and I know I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world.
Taylor had a lot of friends, and she had a few that she would consider her best friends, but Taylor and her friend Brooke have been best friends since they were both in diapers. Brooke was the friend that Taylor had throughout the years that could make her feel like a girl. Weather it was playing with Polly pockets when they were little tikes, playing dress up in their pre teens or in the last few months just being girls who hang out and gossip and do their nails together. I’m sure you know this Brooke, but you meant the world to Taylor and you where the one who helped make Taylor into the beautiful girl she was.
And then there is Nana Candy. Nana Candy loved all her grandchildren, but I’d like to think that Taylor had a whole different spot in her heart for Taylor. She would always bring Taylor either a pack of Rolos, a York peppermint patty or a box of thin mints from Douglas drug. Sometimes she wouldn’t even come in the house she would just stop in front of the house and throw the candy on the lawn for Tay to come get. When she did come in, Taylor would always hide under the table for Nana to find her. Once nana found Taylor, she would get right down on the floor even though she would need a hand getting up later. They would both play with whatever was around, weather it was Polly pockets, my little pony’s, stacking up canned goods just so they could knock them down or playing with a piece of plastic bacon (which Taylor gave to nana when she passed on, so now maybe they can play together once again).
Now lets talk a little bit about dad, or as Taylor jokingly called him “the wallet.” Taylor loved her daddy more then he will probably ever know. Especially in these last few years. They were the light of each other’s life. Weather it was when Tay was a little girl and would run to give him a hug when he came home from work or in the last two years when just about every time Taylor said she was going out and needed money, Dad would make her give him a kiss on the cheek. Taylor hated it, but loved that she hated it cause it would make her laugh for a while even after she left the house. Taylor made dad a more gentle and patient man and everyone should thank Taylor for that, I know I did. Dad, Taylor would want you to know that even though Josh was the love of her life, YOU ARE THE FIRST MAN SHE EVER LOVED. YOU’RE THE BEST FATHER A DAUGHTER COULD ASK FOR AND YOU DID IT ALL THE RIGHT WAY.
Momma bear, I’m sorry, but I can’t even begin to talk about you and Taylor because this is long enough as it is and it’s cold out and I don’t wanna’ keep everyone here for hours, but just know that as crazy as your relationship was with Tay at times, it was also one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever watched unfold in my entire life. You are the kind of mother that every woman aspires to be.
Super Agent Best Friend Mikey….I think the name says it all. You were her brother, but recently you had become her friend. When she needed a hug you were always there to give one. She always said I gave good hugs, but yours were just so much better. She didn’t need to do treatments when you were around because your jokes and impressions made her get all that shit out. You and her didn’t talk to each other about how you felt, but you did the next best thing. You laughed. Laughter is sometimes the best medicine and you where Patch Adams. She loved you Bro and don’t you ever forget it.
Now comes the hard part. Joshua Dickie. I know my brother and I lost my sister and my parents lost there daughter, but it’s your lose that hurts me more then anything. Taylor, to a point saved you. She helped you to become more comfortable in your own skin. The two of you loved each other the way two people should. At times it felt like, even though you were together for two years, you had been married for 50. She would bark at you and you would let it go and say, “ OK, Tayfloor.” Josh I know you know this, but even though Taylor was only with us for 18 years, it was you who made her life complete. It makes me comfortable to know that her life had a sense of a beginning and an end because of her time with you. Even though she tried to spare you of all this pain by pushing you away, it was you who made her want to fight even harder. I know it was Taylor’s love for you that finally allowed you to lift your head up and see how beautiful the world was just because she was in it. No matter what happens throughout your life, I know that your love for Taylor will never leave your heart. She imprinted herself upon your heart, but she left you enough space to love again. We as a family just want to thank you so much for being so patient and kind with Taylor and treating her better then we ever could have imagined. She wasn’t just your girlfriend and you her boyfriend, you were the love of each others life. I’m sorry it had to end like this, but even though you only spent two years together, it’s those two years that will make you into a better man. All of our lives were better because we knew Taylor, but it your’s that she changed the most and I’m proud of her for choosing you.
I’m going to let my words come to an end because I’m starting to talk about Taylor like dad talks about his pumpkins. And we all know how much that annoyed Taylor. Thank you to any and everyone who ever knew Taylor, loved her, or gave her a moment of kindness. She loved so many people. I know people say the world isn’t the same when they lose someone, but I know the world has suffered a great lose. The world still moves on but I know mine will be feel a little slower for awhile, but lets all make Taylor a promise right now and to move forward in our lives and fill the lose we feel with something or someone that we know Taylor would love.
Breathe free Taylor. You were one hell of a human being.”