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Save the Hostility

No one feels like reading another negative thought!

So the entire day today there was a thought in the back of many of our minds that the end of the world was to take place at 6 p.m. I actually commented to my husband that if that were true (which I didn't believe for a second) I'm ok with it, I shaved my legs today.

These silly predictions are among the reasons I avoid watching the news sometimes. I find it extremely depressing at times and sometimes it's scary and discouraging. I think there is too much focus on what is wrong with the world and not enough focus on  the many things we are blessed with every day (for me it would be the sun shining for the past two days after a very rainy week.) 

I do my best to stay clear of topics and people (quite frankly) that I find "toxic." I agreed to write a blog mainly for two reasons. One was with the sincerest hope that maybe I could make someone smile who was otherwise having a not so good day. And two, to evoke thought and conversation about topics that we are otherwise not comfortable bringing up on our own (i.e. marriage equality). 

No one should ever feel insulted, angry or sad after reading anything that I post. I assure you everything I write about comes from a good place. I believe there are ways to say what you are feeling or thinking without causing insult or injury. Delivery is everything.  I also believe somethings are better left unsaid (a hard lesson, after some bouts of verbal diarrhea in my early years!)

I don't like to generalize, I think it's dangerous and unfair, and I try to avoid having a strong opinion about things because I feel there are many sides to everything (although truth be told, I have been called opinionated a time or two in my past, I'm not gonna to lie, but I'm working on it and not to toot my own horn (beep beep!) I've gotten much better!)

Edith Wharton said "There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it" and that is exactly what I intend to do and challenge you to do the same. There's enough hostility in the world.

This post is contributed by a community member. The views expressed in this blog are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of Patch Media Corporation. Everyone is welcome to submit a post to Patch. If you'd like to post a blog, go here to get started.

Lmanchester May 22, 2011 at 01:15 PM
I saw your blog recommended on a facebook page of a friend of mine. I have since read all your blogs. I love them. You have a nice way of getting people to think about things. Even when you tell us that we may be a cr@ppy parent! lol My favorite was your gay marriage blog, up until I read it I believed 'marriage is for a man and a woman' but you have me now thinking, why shouldn't we all be allowed? I am officially a fan! Keep it up!
Kevin Oliver May 22, 2011 at 02:58 PM
Very well said
Tonya Borello May 22, 2011 at 05:10 PM
NICELY SAID INDEED! Your editor needs to step it up. I didn't even realize you had posted another blog because it wasn't listed on the home page. I only realized it was posted after reading a comment on the side bar. Perhaps it's negativity they are looking for. If so, try a new window of opportunity, you could get paid for your writing. Something to think about, just keep us posted as to where you are at.
Marti Monteiro May 22, 2011 at 05:32 PM
Thank you for your comments. In her defense it may not have been on the home page because I posted it late last night. Tonya, if you know where that job is let me know.. I'll apply in a New York Minute!!! ;)
Jen McCaffery May 22, 2011 at 05:37 PM
Thanks, Tonya, for pointing that out. You're right, we aim to put every new blog post at the top so you can see the latest. Every once in a while I have to go back and make sure the feature function worked. And thanks for reading.
Raymond Beltran May 22, 2011 at 06:04 PM
Admittedly, I am not a fan of Blogs; HOWEVER, you mentioned Edith Wharton in your post and have gotten me to take notice. Prepare to receive holiday and birthday presents from me for the rest of your life. Edith Wharton, as you undoubtedly know, was a valuable cornerstone in the vein of literary naturalism, arguably America's first literary genre. Her writing was among the best, as it encouraged her readers to rise and meet her. There was no pandering to her audience's perceived baseline of capability, just wonderful language, introspective writing and memorable prose. Why do I bring this up? Well, after reading this post, I went back and read some of your others. Again, while I never been a passenger on the Blog Train, as it were, I do have a feeling that you possess the ability to have the same impact on this little Patch that Ms. Wharton had with her audience. You're obviously forward in your thinking and have already elevated the community dialogue as opposed to relying on normative statements that are rooted in anger in emotion- a rarity in the blogosphere, not to mention life, in general. So, here's to you, Marti! (Oh, and you should think about posting book reviews. Think of the great discussions...)
Marti Monteiro May 22, 2011 at 06:37 PM
Raymond, Thank you.. WHAT A GREAT IDEA!!! (I am a bit of a book-aholic as you probably gathered from my "What happens at Target stays at Target" blog. I'll definately sew that into my blog posts for sure! Also, as an aside, my birthday is February 3rd, and I celebrate Christmas. I anxiously await my first gift. (hee hee hee)

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